Heavily filtered.
Haven’t posted in a while: I’ve been fatigued.
The fallout from support sometimes gets to me – I feel emotionally drained by all that I put myslef into. My natural demaner is to help and support and also a lack of assertiveness and a fix-it mentality. This leads me into where I feel taken advantage of. I know it is within my control to be able to say “no,” but the downward spiral is that it is just easier to get the job done rather than push for my own well being.
The problem with this is that the only escape I have is through withdrawl: there is no “me” time, so I steal a bit from every interaction and I become an automaton: a servant to the role I play.
So lately that’s where I’ve been. I tire of being the nice guy, the supporter, the understanding. I start to feel as though every interaction is a psychic vamire sucking on my life-force – I feel disrespected and taken for granted.
I’d like to feel that I’m being considered as a value, rather than a tool. The weekend trip to L.A. helped much in that area, but the benefit of that has already unfortunately worn off. I do get a lot of positive verbal reinforcement, but I really have come believe it’s pillow talk and lip service: I would like action to speak for words, to see that I’m valued rather than convinced.
But really it’s likely I’m just bitchy because I’ve been having to work (in work and personal live) hard lately – I wonder if anyone’s noticed.