7 Replies to “Turrette Platitudes (a la <lj user=”metaphorge”>)”
Ok, so you defriended me. I’m crushed. But you should check my journal one last time. You should also allow people to reply to your rhetoric before you pull the thread out from underneath them.
Yes, I certainly should have!
However, I condiser my journal my private space, so if I want to cut contact and exclude you from a conversation it is within my specific rights to be such an asshole.
And let it be clear I understand I am being an asshole. I think that’s ok, too.
LJ to me as I want to experience is a journal and a bullitain board I run and share with friends.
Great, I think. But look at this, some friends you find more about because, hey, here people kinda automatically be much less informal, it’s like this LJ is my house, your house, our places – as well we learn more about each other than we have before.
What I learned about you (no real personal judgement: I’m happy that you live your life they way you do and you are happy! good on ya!) is that I don’t enjoy your company or comments. Yes I could get to know you better and maybe we could settle our differences. Why bother? I could spend my time with people I like better. (once again, please don’t let that insult you because, what does my opinion mean? I’m not bellittling myslef here, but really, what does anyones fucking opinion mean?) We don’t see each other on a regular basis, we don’t play games together – there is nothing to salvage. You are just a friend of someone I value and love, Rich. I’m sure he loves and enojoys your company, and that is fabulous, cause I want everyone to be as happy as they can be.
So I realize im angry with you, and that you should be an acquantance so we don’t piss each other off so much!
But I don’t have an acquaintance area on my LJ. I treat it like my house. So we can meet online in other’s comments and be ok maybe, but I can’t have you in my house anymore cause you’ll say something that will piss me the fuck off and this is my house, motherfucker.
Now this is cognative dissonance, but I don’t think you’ll realize how much I really mean it:
This is no judgement, I don’t think I’m better than you or that you are worse than me (I do think that the kind of thinking you show reminds me too much of ideology that I feel is ruining the world), but that’s just my stupid opinion and I’m some freak of your friend Rich. What the fuck do I matter?
So I’m being honest and I’m being an asshole.
Honest because I feel I have to, and an asshole cause it just feels good.
and by replying to this email, I let you into my house – I have you on monitor becuase I feel I have the right to kick you out if I want.
Damn. I thought you’d take the hint when I defreinded you months ago, and now I went and was an asshole and dumped qforlong too. But damn, when I’m an asshole, I’m a doosey.
I’ll give you the last word and promise to post your relpy if you do:
I like friends like you as acquaintences
Well, I’ll tell ‘ya – that’s a very different response than I expected. One never expects to hear “yes, I’m an asshole and I’m OK with that.”
Please understand it doesn’t bother me that you unfriended me. (I rarely check to see who has me listed as a friend – that aspect of LJ is not important to me. Like you, I post on my LJ for me – if people want to read it, great, friendlist me. If people don’t want to, great, don’t friendlist me.) It doesn’t bother me that you don’t like me. Not everyone will, nor will I like everyone. That’s cool.
The *only* thing that bothers me (and I don’t really know why I am reiterating this point, because I’m sure it doesn’t make any difference to you) is that you said some pretty hardcore things to me, about me, and by pulling the thread out from under me you didn’t give me a chance to defend myself. I don’t take lightly to being called a racist. If there’s anything I am 100% certainly not, it’s a racist. Racism is utterly and wholly offensive no matter how you look at it.
So, I don’t know what I’m trying to say here. You don’t want to be friends? Great – you’re right, it’s not like we were best of buds anyway. You want to be acquaintences? Great – I’ll read, and probably reply to, intriguing posts you make on our joint friends’ LJs. But don’t assume something about me that is wholly not true when you don’t have the facts or even bother to find them out. I’ve never done that to you – I’ve always respected your opinions, even when I don’t agree with them.
You know, really, all that you knew about my POV for any of this election stuff was that I wouldn’t have voted for Bustamante or Davis. You don’t know who I voted for, or why. Yet you attacked me pretty hard just for disagreeing with your statement about Bustamante and Davis. That’s pretty intense, even for acquaintences.
So… there it is. But I don’t know what you mean by:
“I’ll give you the last word and promise to post your relpy if you do:
Ok, so you defriended me. I’m crushed. But you should check my journal one last time. You should also allow people to reply to your rhetoric before you pull the thread out from underneath them.
Yes, I certainly should have!
However, I condiser my journal my private space, so if I want to cut contact and exclude you from a conversation it is within my specific rights to be such an asshole.
And let it be clear I understand I am being an asshole. I think that’s ok, too.
LJ to me as I want to experience is a journal and a bullitain board I run and share with friends.
Great, I think. But look at this, some friends you find more about because, hey, here people kinda automatically be much less informal, it’s like this LJ is my house, your house, our places – as well we learn more about each other than we have before.
What I learned about you (no real personal judgement: I’m happy that you live your life they way you do and you are happy! good on ya!) is that I don’t enjoy your company or comments. Yes I could get to know you better and maybe we could settle our differences. Why bother? I could spend my time with people I like better. (once again, please don’t let that insult you because, what does my opinion mean? I’m not bellittling myslef here, but really, what does anyones fucking opinion mean?) We don’t see each other on a regular basis, we don’t play games together – there is nothing to salvage. You are just a friend of someone I value and love, Rich. I’m sure he loves and enojoys your company, and that is fabulous, cause I want everyone to be as happy as they can be.
So I realize im angry with you, and that you should be an acquantance so we don’t piss each other off so much!
But I don’t have an acquaintance area on my LJ. I treat it like my house. So we can meet online in other’s comments and be ok maybe, but I can’t have you in my house anymore cause you’ll say something that will piss me the fuck off and this is my house, motherfucker.
Now this is cognative dissonance, but I don’t think you’ll realize how much I really mean it:
This is no judgement, I don’t think I’m better than you or that you are worse than me (I do think that the kind of thinking you show reminds me too much of ideology that I feel is ruining the world), but that’s just my stupid opinion and I’m some freak of your friend Rich. What the fuck do I matter?
So I’m being honest and I’m being an asshole.
Honest because I feel I have to, and an asshole cause it just feels good.
and by replying to this email, I let you into my house – I have you on monitor becuase I feel I have the right to kick you out if I want.
Damn. I thought you’d take the hint when I defreinded you months ago, and now I went and was an asshole and dumped qforlong too. But damn, when I’m an asshole, I’m a doosey.
I’ll give you the last word and promise to post your relpy if you do:
I like friends like you as acquaintences
Well, I’ll tell ‘ya – that’s a very different response than I expected. One never expects to hear “yes, I’m an asshole and I’m OK with that.”
Please understand it doesn’t bother me that you unfriended me. (I rarely check to see who has me listed as a friend – that aspect of LJ is not important to me. Like you, I post on my LJ for me – if people want to read it, great, friendlist me. If people don’t want to, great, don’t friendlist me.) It doesn’t bother me that you don’t like me. Not everyone will, nor will I like everyone. That’s cool.
The *only* thing that bothers me (and I don’t really know why I am reiterating this point, because I’m sure it doesn’t make any difference to you) is that you said some pretty hardcore things to me, about me, and by pulling the thread out from under me you didn’t give me a chance to defend myself. I don’t take lightly to being called a racist. If there’s anything I am 100% certainly not, it’s a racist. Racism is utterly and wholly offensive no matter how you look at it.
So, I don’t know what I’m trying to say here. You don’t want to be friends? Great – you’re right, it’s not like we were best of buds anyway. You want to be acquaintences? Great – I’ll read, and probably reply to, intriguing posts you make on our joint friends’ LJs. But don’t assume something about me that is wholly not true when you don’t have the facts or even bother to find them out. I’ve never done that to you – I’ve always respected your opinions, even when I don’t agree with them.
You know, really, all that you knew about my POV for any of this election stuff was that I wouldn’t have voted for Bustamante or Davis. You don’t know who I voted for, or why. Yet you attacked me pretty hard just for disagreeing with your statement about Bustamante and Davis. That’s pretty intense, even for acquaintences.
So… there it is. But I don’t know what you mean by:
“I’ll give you the last word and promise to post your relpy if you do:
I like friends like you as acquaintences”
Was the colon after “do” supposed to be a period?
Flowers are pretty.
Yep.
Ok. So. It’s all done with, then.